Rodney’s Reflection: Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is Sunday!  

Are you ready? Do you have a creative way to celebrate in the midst of the pandemic this year?  Are you celebrating at all? 

I find it interesting how some people can’t wait for valentines and how others despise it. 

I must confess I have had mixed emotions about Valentines’ day.  Not because I don’t want to celebrate love, because I do. I have the love of my wife of 23 years, I have the love of my beautiful children, my extended family, and friends. And, I want to show them how much I love them. 

I struggle with the commercialization of Valentine’s Day. It is an 18 billion dollar holiday. I can get flowers for Allison on Valentines Day or I can buy them on the day after for 75% off and afford to shower her with flowers on other occasions, which she deserves. Seriously, if you don’t believe me, go to Kroger on Monday.  But if I save the money, I feel horrible. Why? Because I didn’t do what was expected (by culture) to give cards, flowers, and chocolates. All of which are temporary. Hear me say, buying gifts for Valentine’s is not inherently wrong – and I do believe our spouse, children, and extended family and friends need to know we love them. But, does it always have to be something we buy?

I think gifts can be one way to show love, but maybe there are other ways we can show our love…

“Jesus said, No one has greater love than to give up one’s life for one’s friends” (John 15:13 CEB). John reminds us of how great God’s love is for each and everyone of us.  He reminds us that the greatest of love is not shown through material items, but through giving ourselves.  

Maybe the best gift we can give this Valentine’s Day is being ourselves. By giving ourselves fully and completely through our full presence and attention. And for the days leading up to and or after Valentines Day, what is one loving thing you can do for those who aren’t expecting it? Leaving little notes, making a favorite dessert or meal, or picking up the phone and calling just to express your love. 

I hope you will join us for worship this Valentine’s Day as we celebrate God’s unconditional love for all of us. 


Rodney Whitfield
Senior Pastor